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Single Parent, Going to School, Raising Kids

“…He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners,[a]to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor…”
From Isaiah 61

Hi everyone!

I’ve taken a bit of a hiatus from blogging. As you may know, I was caring for my sweet, precious mom until she transitioned this month. I may come back later and write more about our experience, but for now, I will just share the news about how I will continue her work!

If anyone knows Dr. Ethel M. Lassiter, you would know that one of her core beliefs is that education is paramount.

In fact, she was late to labor and delivery to give birth to her daughter Elyssa partly because she was up working on her Ph.D. dissertation the night before she was due.  Throughout her career, she worked as a secondary and post-secondary educator and was a two-time fellow at the Harvard Principals’ Institute (2003, 2013). She became the principal of Dana Road Elementary School, and retired in 2013. But retirement didn’t stop her. Soon after, she founded EML Educational Consulting, LLC where she coordinated the Ministerial Advisory Council of Warren County, organized PRAXIS workshops in conjunction with the Vicksburg/Warren School District in preparation for state teachers’ exams, and provided summer enrichment programs for many elementary-level school children.

So as a way to honor her, and as a way to honor a cause she truly lived day in and day out, we announce the Dr. Ethel M. Lassiter scholarship foundation.

This scholarship is for single parents (moms or dads) who truly desire to go back to school to make a better life for them and their children. She knew very well some of the hurdles that parents face when it comes to achieving their academic goals and rearing children at the same time. Not only did Dr. Lassiter attend school throughout her pregnancy, she also furthered her education and career while raising a child–and encouraged her faculty, friends, and community members to do the same. Now, thanks to your help, Ethel can continue her life’s work for years to come.

This scholarship will be given on her birthday, February 13, 2019. (I am thinking about extending that due date!) Applicant rules will be announced via social media. The applicant can be attending or planning to attend trade school, undergraduate school, graduate school, or any other form of continuing education. Each applicant should submit a video explaining why this scholarship can help them achieve their goals via Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter with the hashtag #EMLscholarship, and should mention and tag @thesaylifecoach.

Click here to be an integral part of this initiative!

Starting Tasks but Not Finishing? – SEASONS OF ME

Last week, we followed #SayLife!’s intern, Angela, as she came face-to-face with the realization that she was now among the church mothers that she and her friends admired in their youth.  This week, she talks about starting tasks and not getting them done! Take a look. #SayLife!

I recommitted to taking better physical care of my body and started daily one to two-mile walks this week. After three days of walking, the increase of endorphins aka “feel good hormones” have me feeling more energized, alert, and productive. But let me keep it real y’all, starting a new thing is not necessarily challenging for me, but maintaining and/or finishing what I start is.

Which brings me to the topic of unfinished business. What do I mean when I say unfinished business? Unfinished business can be found in most areas of our lives, and it can be emotional stuff, physical to-do’s, or unkept promises to yourself and others.  It’s often those things we know are important or necessary, but procrastinate on or set them aside for all kinds of reasons. Unfinished business does not enter our lives from the outside, but it’s the stuff that we create within. And, because we tend to turn a blind eye to unfinished business, instances can accumulate over time and be dragged from one year into the another.

So what am I saying? I’m confessing that I have too much unfinished business in my life, and my current struggle is to not be overwhelmed by it. Just as unfinished business has a beginning, it has an end. I must remember that I have the power to change my mindsetcome up with a plan, and stick to it so that my unfinished business can become finished. That’s when I remind myself that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, and now is the time to lessen this burden and free myself, one task at a time.

This is a season for not just finishing what I’ve started, but finishing well.

When Did I Become a Church Mother? – SEASONS OF ME

Angela Hall is 57 years young, a wife, mom, grandma, AND she’s The Say Life Coach‘s very first intern! 🎉 After helping her loved ones achieve their goals, she wanted to do something for HER and enrolled in college at age 50. Now, Angela is asking some deep questions like Are there any roles left for me to play in life? She’s graciously sharing those answers with US through her new series entitled SEASONS OF ME on thesaylifecoach.com. Last week, we met Angela. This week, she talks about “knocking on the door of senior citizenship.” #SayLife! 
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Photo courtesy: http://www.hiltonheadmonthly.com/living/4077-the-impact-and-importance-of-gullah-traditions-in-the-black-church

Have you ever had a moment when you stopped and asked yourself how did you get to be the age that you are? Did you even think you’d be the age you are today? It seems that many references associated with my 58 years implies that I’m knocking on the door of senior citizenship. What comes to your mind when you think of senior citizens?

While chatting on the phone with my best friend I asked, “Remember the mothers of the church from back in the day who taught and spoke into the lives of the younger women? Where are they today?” My BFF chuckled and said, “Silly, WE ARE the mothers of the church today!” ME, a church mother already? How did I miss that cue?

What about me places me in the “church mother” category? Is it my age, the recent gray hairs appearing on my edges, how I dress? In my child’s mind, these staples of the church were 80-100 year-old women dressed in white with white doilies on their heads, and you would find some of them on the usher board or sitting on the front pews, rocking and humming during service. They were all-seeing and all-knowing, knew how to pray down heaven, and one look from them was enough to make the crooked things straight!

Now I realize this painted image came from my child-like mind, but that image has remained for me and never modified as I grew into adulthood. So I don’t see myself as being even close to how they appeared to be to me back then? Considering churches of today, are church mothers bred from a different cloth?

57 and in College – SEASONS OF ME

Hello! I’d like to introduce you to Angela Hall. She is 57 years young, a wife, mom, grandma, AND she’s The Say Life Coach‘s very first intern! 🎉 She’s made a huge difference in the administrative field, and now she wants to try something new. We’ve all been there, right? After helping her loved ones achieve their goals, she wanted to do something for HER and enrolled in college at age 50. Now, Angela is asking some deep questions like Are there any roles left for me to play in life? and Is it selfish for me to declare that now it’s all about me? She’s graciously sharing those answers with US through her new series entitled SEASONS OF ME on thesaylifecoach.com. This week, we meet Angela and learn about her background. Say hello to Angela and check out her introductory post of her series here! Welcome, Angela! #SayLife! 

SEASONS OF ME 

My name is Angela Hall, and I was born in 1959, the eldest of 4 children. As a young black girl growing in the 60’s and 70’s, typical daily life for me included summer backyard cook-outs, 70’s music, motorcycle clubs, playing hop-scotch and dodgeball, block dances, afros, bell bottom pants, platform shoes, and Sunday school in my grandfather’s church.  Cultural influences in my community were the local church, grass-root initiatives of local black activists, and the rising Black Panther Party movement. Unbeknownst to me, I grew up in a time when urban communities had become more and more racially and politically charged to aggressively push for change and equality.

Over the past 36 years, I became a wife, mother of 4, and grandmother of five. And during those years, I’ve had the privilege of watching my children enter the military, completed bachelors and master degrees, found a non-profit organization, start a carpentry and make-up artistry business, travel the United States and abroad as a Christian missionary and hip-hop recording artist, and witnessed the birth of my grandchildren. Yes, I am truly blessed!

I’ve been there for my children and family in full force. But now, it’s time for me to ask questions and seek answers for myself.

So, the questions I ask and the answers I now seek are:

Who am I today?  I am a product of the past 57 years that’s still evolving.

What defines me in this season of life?

Am I still relevant?

Are there any roles left for me to play in life?

Is it selfish for me to declare that now it’s all about me?

Thanks for traveling this journey with me.

-Angela

Happy Birthday, #SayLife! 🍰🎉

One year ago, right after midnight, I was sitting at my computer, clicking ‘submit’ to claim my website, thesaylifecoach.com. Here I am, again–right after midnight, sitting at my computer saying happy 1st birthday to this vision made real. I thank God that I am able to give to people in this way. And without HIS grace, the enduring love and support from my relatives and friends, and YOU–The Say Life! Family, all the snapshots in my collage would not have been possible. For every like, for every share, for every encouraging word–thank you.

Here’s to many more birthdays for Say Life! Personal Coaching!💗

 

 

Say Life!’s first birthday might be coming to a close, but the celebration is not! 🎉🎉🎉From now until March 9th, get a free consultation + 1 free session! 😍



Visit www.thesaylifecoach.com to book today!
#SayLife #firstbirthday #party!

 

Patient Parenting #BigNews

So, as of December 16, 2017, I am a proud parent of two

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dogs. 🙂

persuading the pups with snacks (courtesy: Classic Edge Concepts by Nikki Ciciora)

#Puppyparent! But seriously, patience is a virtue, and patience in parenting (children) is no exception. Add restless energizer-bunny toddlers and arguing with rebellious teens to the mix, and things can get a little well…challenging.

But as problems always have solutions, so do your parenting woes. Patience need not be a quest for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. As of 12/16/17, parenting isn’t quite my department, but here are a few tips from the experts that just might help you improve your relationships with your children!

Communicate effectively with your children. A lack of communication with your child is a hindrance to establishing a good relationship. Talk to your kids in ways they can understand. Talk to your precious kids about your day, and perhaps you will hear more about theirs. Hopefully the ‘how was school?’ ‘Fine.’ conversation can change a little bit.

Match pace with your kids. Find time to spend with your kids. Kick back and enjoy the sunset with them. Take them to a beach and spend a lazy afternoon playing with sand and collecting seashells with them. Those are moments that are truly priceless and special. Treasure those moments. Can’t put a price tag on that!

Keep your cool. Catch yourself if you are about to have an outburst and consider the consequences of your actions and words. It’s a process, so don’t be discouraged if you need some work in this area. Even if you’re not a parent, you play a part in helping to shape this child’s view of the world.

Be realistic with your expectations. Sometimes, our expectations of our children tend to be unrealistic. Remember what it was like to be a kid.

Let them realize the consequences of their actions. If a child persists on doing things that violate the rules you set, explain to him/her the consequences of the actions in question and give some time to reflect on what you taught. Letting your child realize the consequences of his or her actions leads to a genuine understanding of the rules.

It’s important that children learn how to manage their own feelings and relationships. Patience is a virtue that we all can hold dear. <3

Have any suggestions for patient parenting?