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Self Awareness: A Key Component on the Personal Development Journey

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Personal Development has many layers. Today, I’d like to discuss the Self Awareness aspect of the topic. We all know that Personal Development, simply put, means “developing self.” However, it’s much deeper than that.

The Wikipedia description says that Personal development covers activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations.

Development of self is a journey of a lifetime. We’re constantly changing, growing, and reaching new heights, things, goals, desires, etc.

With the fact in mind that everything starts with a thought, I feel that speaking on Self Awareness is an appropriate starting point.

Being aware of self awareness is crucial.
* Who are you exactly? 
*What does your distinct blueprint consist of?
*What are your values and beliefs?
*What makes you unique from another?
*What drives you and keeps you moving forward?

Being true to self and knowing thyself is a treasure and a gift that will reap great rewards. This is valuable for you and those around you. There’s a great deal of personal fulfillment gained when it comes to fulfilling a dream, taking action, or doing something that YOU wanted to do. At times, we may not know exactly WHO we are. It may take a situation or circumstance to help us realize last what we REALLY want or don’t want. There are subtle clues and hints to guide us, so don’t ignore them. If may come about as a gut feeling, an intuitive thought, a feeling of discomfort or a good or bad vibe. Knowing yourself, not being too hard on yourself, taking time out to nourish, relax, pamper, or treat yourself is comforting and gratifying. So take time to love yourself, know yourself and give yourself just as much encouragement as you would give a loved one or friend.

We all have our weaknesses and strengths. Take time to acknowledge and honor the awareness of these. Because these are the things that make you– you. There is always room to develop, grow and learn. With the help of self-help books, affirmations, coaches, proven methods of like-minded successful people, programs, attention and take the needed time to allow yourself to develop and focus. You can reach new heights! I believe in you and me pray that you find your life’s true path and fulfill your life’s purpose.

2 Timothy 1:7 ESV

For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

Philippians 4:13 ESV

I can do all things through him who strengthens me.


Meet Katrina Marie!

Hi everyone! Elyssa here! I am SO excited to introduce you to the newest team member of Say Life!, Katrina Marie! She is joining us as our new enrollment coach, so chances are, you’ll get to connect with her one-on-one. She loves the Lord, she loves people, and she’s got such a bright light, y’all. Can’t wait for you to meet her!

My name is Katrina Marie and I’d like to send out a great big, cheerful hello to the current and future Say Life! Family members and to the general readers of this post! It is with great pleasure that I introduce myself to you. First and foremost, I’d like to say I’m excited to be a part of the Say Life! Family and I look forward to a great journey growing right along with Say Life! and helping you be your best self! I’ve been writing since I could remember. I have a great need to be creative and express, as well as being a help in the lives of others where I can.

I simply love to shine my high vibrational light and positive energy wherever I go. I genuinely enjoy the dynamics of the many beautiful souls of the world! We all have our different goals, dreams, backgrounds, personalities, passions, skills, abilities, and gifts to say the least. I’m here to motivate and inspire, to support and encourage. I personally enjoy learning, absorbing, and applying knowledge (wisdom) and using it in a beneficial way. I love to read and I’m CONSTANTLY reading a variety of topics from a vast selection of sources. I often fact check resources and compare information, statistics, etc. Therefore, you’ll get the most accurate information. On top of fact checking, I also love to share informational tips, tricks, and helpful things that have helped me in my life. Some of the most successful people have gained a host of wisdom from other successful/great people. I believe in passing it FORWARD. Helping others is my main agenda! As I stated before, we ALL have gifts to share! I’m a gift and so are you! So, let your inner light shine today! I’m wishing you peace, blessings, guidance, and direction towards your purpose and all that you strive for!!!  My first post will be concerning Personal development. I look forward going deeper into what that truly consists of, how you can benefit from it, and applying it to different areas of your life.  So, I hope you’re excited about personal growth and development, motivation, encouragement, inspiration and a good dose of POSITIVE ENERGY because I’m excited about sharing my passion with you.

Feeling Fabulous in my A&K Dollhouse on HGTV!

(Here’s a link to our episode! )

So, if you haven’t heard of A&K Dollhouse, you have GOT to look at these amazing ladies’ selection of beautiful clothes and accessories now! Well, you can stay and read the rest of this article, BUT–as soon as you get done reading, THEN you can go. Deal? Deal:)

Alyssa and Krystal, the two fabulous entrepreneurs behind this trendy, up-to-date store, make it so easy to order from their site. They’ve got such a wide range to pick from–whether you’re looking for something edgy or something to wear to your next business meeting, they’ve got it. I’ve been buying A&K Dollhouse since 2017 and let me tell you, they do not disappoint. AND THEN, once you get your clothes delivered to your house or business, it comes to you in a beautiful and sparkly gold package! I may be a sucker for sparkly things, but it’s special touches like those that really make a customer feel special.

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For our House Hunters episode, A&K Dollhouse styled me in their beautiful “Gorgeous Doll” top in hot pink. It was a flowy, cool, stylish shirt that was perfect for filming in Summer in Virginia. The solid color looked great on camera, and I loved the “cold shoulders” too! It is such a unique item of clothing and I have worn it for a few occasions. Casual, classy, and perfect for what I was looking for!

Follow this amazing store on Facebook and Instagram too!

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Remedy 88 is the fashion remedy! – HGTV House Hunters

Y’all. Let me tell you how excited I was to wear some fashions from Remedy 88 on our House Hunters episode on HGTV. But first, let me tell you how amazingly helpful Aaronesia, the boutique’s owner, was during the ordering process! Not only did my items come to my house quickly, Aaronesia also placed a handwritten note inside of my package. C’mon. How sweet?! <3 To be honest, in the fast-paced, electronic, text message, email, cyberworld we live in today, things like that really mean a lot.

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House hunters HGTV Elyssa Haneef Newport News Life coach Elyssa Lassiter

House hunters HGTV Elyssa Haneef Newport News Life coach Elyssa Lassiter

Remedy 88 styled me in their beautiful Ana Bodysuit for the show. Honestly, sometimes I get a little anxious when it comes to bodysuits because some of them have the tendency to cut into your skin a bit. (Think tight leotards :P) However, my Ana bodysuit was the most comfortable bodysuit I’ve worn! It is made out of soft material and moved with me, which made for a pleasant day of filming. I love this piece, and I also love how versatile it is! Although I wore it with a gold jacket and blue pants (Go Southern!), you could totally wear it on its own with pants or a skirt. In fact, for my evening outing, I ditched the jacket and wore this beautiful cream-colored piece to contrast my bright blue pants! I also ordered the Liza Romper from Remedy 88 and it is a staple in my closet.

 

If you haven’t checked out the amazing styles and sizes offered by Remedy 88, why wait! Do it now:) There is something for nearly everyone.

Hey! What are you still doing here?! Scoot over to Remedy 88! You’re always welcome back here at thesaylifecoach.com though:)

Elyssa the say life coach

Single Parent, Going to School, Raising Kids

“…He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners,[a]to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor…”
From Isaiah 61

Hi everyone!

I’ve taken a bit of a hiatus from blogging. As you may know, I was caring for my sweet, precious mom until she transitioned this month. I may come back later and write more about our experience, but for now, I will just share the news about how I will continue her work!

If anyone knows Dr. Ethel M. Lassiter, you would know that one of her core beliefs is that education is paramount.

In fact, she was late to labor and delivery to give birth to her daughter Elyssa partly because she was up working on her Ph.D. dissertation the night before she was due.  Throughout her career, she worked as a secondary and post-secondary educator and was a two-time fellow at the Harvard Principals’ Institute (2003, 2013). She became the principal of Dana Road Elementary School, and retired in 2013. But retirement didn’t stop her. Soon after, she founded EML Educational Consulting, LLC where she coordinated the Ministerial Advisory Council of Warren County, organized PRAXIS workshops in conjunction with the Vicksburg/Warren School District in preparation for state teachers’ exams, and provided summer enrichment programs for many elementary-level school children.

So as a way to honor her, and as a way to honor a cause she truly lived day in and day out, we announce the Dr. Ethel M. Lassiter scholarship foundation.

This scholarship is for single parents (moms or dads) who truly desire to go back to school to make a better life for them and their children. She knew very well some of the hurdles that parents face when it comes to achieving their academic goals and rearing children at the same time. Not only did Dr. Lassiter attend school throughout her pregnancy, she also furthered her education and career while raising a child–and encouraged her faculty, friends, and community members to do the same. Now, thanks to your help, Ethel can continue her life’s work for years to come.

This scholarship will be given on her birthday, February 13, 2019. (I am thinking about extending that due date!) Applicant rules will be announced via social media. The applicant can be attending or planning to attend trade school, undergraduate school, graduate school, or any other form of continuing education. Each applicant should submit a video explaining why this scholarship can help them achieve their goals via Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter with the hashtag #EMLscholarship, and should mention and tag @thesaylifecoach.

Click here to be an integral part of this initiative!

Starting Tasks but Not Finishing? – SEASONS OF ME

Last week, we followed #SayLife!’s intern, Angela, as she came face-to-face with the realization that she was now among the church mothers that she and her friends admired in their youth.  This week, she talks about starting tasks and not getting them done! Take a look. #SayLife!

I recommitted to taking better physical care of my body and started daily one to two-mile walks this week. After three days of walking, the increase of endorphins aka “feel good hormones” have me feeling more energized, alert, and productive. But let me keep it real y’all, starting a new thing is not necessarily challenging for me, but maintaining and/or finishing what I start is.

Which brings me to the topic of unfinished business. What do I mean when I say unfinished business? Unfinished business can be found in most areas of our lives, and it can be emotional stuff, physical to-do’s, or unkept promises to yourself and others.  It’s often those things we know are important or necessary, but procrastinate on or set them aside for all kinds of reasons. Unfinished business does not enter our lives from the outside, but it’s the stuff that we create within. And, because we tend to turn a blind eye to unfinished business, instances can accumulate over time and be dragged from one year into the another.

So what am I saying? I’m confessing that I have too much unfinished business in my life, and my current struggle is to not be overwhelmed by it. Just as unfinished business has a beginning, it has an end. I must remember that I have the power to change my mindsetcome up with a plan, and stick to it so that my unfinished business can become finished. That’s when I remind myself that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, and now is the time to lessen this burden and free myself, one task at a time.

This is a season for not just finishing what I’ve started, but finishing well.

When Did I Become a Church Mother? – SEASONS OF ME

Angela Hall is 57 years young, a wife, mom, grandma, AND she’s The Say Life Coach‘s very first intern! 🎉 After helping her loved ones achieve their goals, she wanted to do something for HER and enrolled in college at age 50. Now, Angela is asking some deep questions like Are there any roles left for me to play in life? She’s graciously sharing those answers with US through her new series entitled SEASONS OF ME on thesaylifecoach.com. Last week, we met Angela. This week, she talks about “knocking on the door of senior citizenship.” #SayLife! 

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Have you ever had a moment when you stopped and asked yourself how did you get to be the age that you are? Did you even think you’d be the age you are today? It seems that many references associated with my 58 years implies that I’m knocking on the door of senior citizenship. What comes to your mind when you think of senior citizens?

While chatting on the phone with my best friend I asked, “Remember the mothers of the church from back in the day who taught and spoke into the lives of the younger women? Where are they today?” My BFF chuckled and said, “Silly, WE ARE the mothers of the church today!” ME, a church mother already? How did I miss that cue?

What about me places me in the “church mother” category? Is it my age, the recent gray hairs appearing on my edges, how I dress? In my child’s mind, these staples of the church were 80-100 year-old women dressed in white with white doilies on their heads, and you would find some of them on the usher board or sitting on the front pews, rocking and humming during service. They were all-seeing and all-knowing, knew how to pray down heaven, and one look from them was enough to make the crooked things straight!

Now I realize this painted image came from my child-like mind, but that image has remained for me and never modified as I grew into adulthood. So I don’t see myself as being even close to how they appeared to be to me back then? Considering churches of today, are church mothers bred from a different cloth?

57 and in College – SEASONS OF ME

Hello! I’d like to introduce you to Angela Hall. She is 57 years young, a wife, mom, grandma, AND she’s The Say Life Coach‘s very first intern! 🎉 She’s made a huge difference in the administrative field, and now she wants to try something new. We’ve all been there, right? After helping her loved ones achieve their goals, she wanted to do something for HER and enrolled in college at age 50. Now, Angela is asking some deep questions like Are there any roles left for me to play in life? and Is it selfish for me to declare that now it’s all about me? She’s graciously sharing those answers with US through her new series entitled SEASONS OF ME on thesaylifecoach.com. This week, we meet Angela and learn about her background. Say hello to Angela and check out her introductory post of her series here! Welcome, Angela! #SayLife! 

SEASONS OF ME 

My name is Angela Hall, and I was born in 1959, the eldest of 4 children. As a young black girl growing in the 60’s and 70’s, typical daily life for me included summer backyard cook-outs, 70’s music, motorcycle clubs, playing hop-scotch and dodgeball, block dances, afros, bell bottom pants, platform shoes, and Sunday school in my grandfather’s church.  Cultural influences in my community were the local church, grass-root initiatives of local black activists, and the rising Black Panther Party movement. Unbeknownst to me, I grew up in a time when urban communities had become more and more racially and politically charged to aggressively push for change and equality.

Over the past 36 years, I became a wife, mother of 4, and grandmother of five. And during those years, I’ve had the privilege of watching my children enter the military, completed bachelors and master degrees, found a non-profit organization, start a carpentry and make-up artistry business, travel the United States and abroad as a Christian missionary and hip-hop recording artist, and witnessed the birth of my grandchildren. Yes, I am truly blessed!

I’ve been there for my children and family in full force. But now, it’s time for me to ask questions and seek answers for myself.

So, the questions I ask and the answers I now seek are:

Who am I today?  I am a product of the past 57 years that’s still evolving.

What defines me in this season of life?

Am I still relevant?

Are there any roles left for me to play in life?

Is it selfish for me to declare that now it’s all about me?

Thanks for traveling this journey with me.

-Angela