Feeling alone in a busy world: One Woman’s Story

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Lately, I’ve heard and have had information shared with me concerning people local and nationwide that have either taken their own lives, those who are feeling isolated, secretly suffering with depression, or they simply don’t feel worthy or accepted.

This subject truly touched my heart and is dear to me.

As stated in previous blog post. Our world is massive. We currently have approximately 7 billion people in the world. People coming and going, tending to business and their families, loved ones, hobbies or their goals. Laughing, sharing their dreams with one another, going out to eat, hanging out with friends, dining, tending to their gardens, attending sports events, traveling, having dinner with families and more!

Busy, busy, busy.

So many things are going on.

So, the other day…I was at an orientation and towards break time a woman at my table just came out and stated that she was just at a lost for words at that moment. She was in shock.

To give you a little backdrop. I’ve learned of my spiritual gifts, and one of them is that people gravitate towards me because of my spirit, my aura, and they seem to call me or walk up to me not even knowing me and pour their heart out to me and express themselves. I used to be totally confused and not understand why. However, I’ve learned and gotten quite used to it. I’d attentively listen, show empathy (as I’m an empath), console, comfort, shed light, or pray if need be.

Back to the story. So, I asked her why and what was wrong? She stated she just found that one of the leaders at the camp won’t be back because she’s no longer with us. She stated that the lady took her own life. She was very close to the lady and looked up the her as a mentor and leader of the camp. She was very confused and distraught and I truly was touched and saddened.

We spoke for a while about the subject and whenever she would see the lady, she seemed fine. Evidently, she did to others and maybe even her family. Now at times, people know we are down but again, it’s so good to take it a step further and see if there’s anything you can do. If they want to talk, perhaps refer them to resource if you know they are suffering.

Another thing that touched me was the fact that the female stated. A few weeks before she found out the news, the camp leader called her asking her if she wanted to go to lunch. The woman turned her down at that time. She felt it was a little strange for her to call her asking her to go to lunch due to the fact that in the past they didn’t have a social relationship outside of camp. The female stated if she knew what she knew now, she would have taken her up on her offer.

This brought to mind the blog post that I wrote concerning going deeper with your loved ones. We are all busy, but someone close to you may be secretly be suffering inside. It is so good to go deeper with the people you care about because people who are suffering may wear a mask and they have learned to wear it well.

Go a step beyond. “How’s your day?” If you don’t do this or haven’t in a while, try calling someone “just because.” I’ve noticed a lot lately that when I call someone, they always seem think I want something and generally we ask, “What’s up?”

What happened to the days when we’re simply taking time out of our day to just call to say hello, to see how someone is doing, or to ‘catch up’ with them since the last time you talked?

Please reach out to others and see how their emotional state is. Maybe they haven’t been out the house in a while. Maybe they don’t call or take interest in things they used to, or maybe their mood, demeanor, or outlook on things changed.

Go deeper. Take an interest in them on another level.

So please, if something seems strange, take the time to ask about it. Ask further questions. Reach out. People are reaching out to us and we need to be in a state to see the signs as best as we can.

It’s not easy for people to tell you what they secretly struggle with. So be of help, take your relationships a step further, and reach out to them and SHOW you care and love them through your actions beyond the normal day to day routine, actions, reactions or questions.

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Passing forward love and kindness

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Isn’t it so nice when you receive an unexpected act of kindness? A kind word. Maybe someone holds the door for you or throws a little something extra in your bag.

Random acts of kindness truly make a difference in someone’s day. Simply being nice, showing love or kindness isn’t done to receive–it’s done to give!

Giving from the heart without expectation is a great quality to have and it also makes you feel good!

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Think back for a moment.

Didn’t you appreciate when someone showed you kindness or love when you weren’t in your best mood? When you may have not been too pleasant at all? Did you have a change of heart? Did their love and compassion make you feel better? Did it make you realize that you may not have had the best reaction toward them or could have taken a nicer approach?

I know I’m guilty of it! Being that no one is perfect, you just may be able to relate.

I’ve found that paying it forward and passing along the love, kindness and compassion adds to the beautiful cycle of higher vibration. This act reminds others that, “Yes! there are plenty of good people in the world.” There are people with great hearts and people who truly care for the world and others.

So, if you haven’t paid it forward in a while, or if you need a refresher, or are in an emotional rut–go for a kindness test drive! (lol yes, I tend to sometimes get a little cheesy).

You will find that your mood will be lifted. Your spirit will be in a better place. Why? Well, simply put, kindness is contagious. Doing something for others make you feel good because of good deeds. Also, seeing someone’s mood lifted as a result of your action has a boomerang effect on your mood. Lastly, love makes the world go round.

So take the time to share and show love! Be a part of something bigger than yourself! Let your inner light shine. Be one of the flavorful grains of Earth and do it with pure joy! You’ll attract more positive energy, people, and opportunities.

Best wishes in creating high vibration ripple effects!

If you need help getting out of your “rut,” let’s chat.

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Deeper Level Loving

Are you going deeper with loved ones?

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Lately, I was spiritually inspired concerning the thought of going deeper with the people I love. I’m sure you’ve heard of the 12 lives that were taken and the many others who were injured in Virginia Beach–our neighboring city. It hit close to home and that also made me think about the concept of loving deeper. Are we truly showing love to the people in our lives? I wonder just how many people actually take the time to go deeper with the people who are in their circle.

This is a very important topic to me. It’s such a delicate and crucial subject about which I am passionate.

I’ll start by saying, no matter what your belief, I feel that we are spiritual beings having a human experience vs. being a human being that may encounter spiritual experiences.

I’ve thought about, witnessed, and discovered people that have passed on and have not really known their loved ones on a deeper level. Some situations are drastic–a loved one who may have been leading a double life or one who made decisions that didn’t benefit them. This may have led to criminal charges, being in the wrong place at the wrong time, being involved in a destructive situation. I believe we should feel that we can confide in our loved ones. We should feel that we can talk openly. At times we don’t feel safe to open up in fear of judgement or rejection, ridicule, etc. We should remove the stigma surrounding mental health and talking about it. Mental health is a crucial area. This could include minor to major health topics–depression, anxiety, and OCD, to name a few.

Sometimes, loved ones don’t really pay attention when they are around individuals who are in need of support. Some may ask, “How are you?” but do we truly wait for a real answer? Just like a child or adolescent, you may only get a basic answer unless you go deeper. For instance saying, “Hey, I know you may be good, but if you ever feel down and out, please let me know. I’m here to listen.” or, “How are you on a deeper level?” Try to word it in a way that will be relatable to the person with whom you’re speaking.

Please take the time to go deeper. Also, I truly believe there’s a time and, of course, a place for everything. So pray for guidance if you pray, and ask for the proper words to say. I love the people in my life. I truly do! As I mentioned at the beginning of this content, I was truly inspired to share this with you because I’m making an effort to go deeper and it’s truly important that we know our loved ones on a deeper level.

If we love them, then we will care about their spiritual life, their emotional wellness, their mental health, and wellness.

A lot of people you see every day are depressed and they hide it well. Many are even lonely and it contributes to a number of health conditions. Also, many of people have been affected by broken heart syndrome. There are a number of stressful occurrences that can trigger broken heart syndrome. For example, when a close spouse or loved one goes home in spirit, it can affect the other spouse physically.

Please, take the time to go deeper, comfort others, ask for guidance, strength, and courage to go deeper in love with the ones you love. Just how well do you know your mother or father, your sister or brother, your friend, your in laws, etc.?

Now, some people may have this taken care of and that’s a beautiful thing. However, there are a lot of people (including me) who want to go deeper and have those conversations that bring us to truly know our loved one.

Take that love you have and go deeper. When we take just ONE step, things happen. You may not get an instant result, but make your intentions known.

To sum things up, we all have a big impact on one another. We are all connect and affect each other. You may not SEE a reaction or a result of your impact at that moment, but you are sowing seed DAILY with your thoughts, your actions, your reactions and response to others.

Take the time to love, to care, to shine your inner light brightly. And if you need a tune up, get one. Take the time to get by yourself and do some self/spiritual tuning. Be a positive, loving example.

Lastly, let someone know you care about their well-being on a deeper level. Form and nurture those meaningful relationships. Our life is precious and we all need people who care about us and it’s nice to know we are cared about. People need to know they are more than just a title. Light hearted conversation is good, but who’s gonna step up and take the time to go deeper in love, with the people who mean the most?

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Overcoming challenges

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Life is beautiful. Life is a gift. Life can be filled with a series of wonderful moments of joy, love, achievements, peace, laughter, and magical moments.

However, that’s not always the case 24/7. As much as we enjoy life and appreciate life, we all know that it’s not only the high moments in life but, we get the lows as well. The downright heartbreaking, tough, sad, confusing, perplexed, and challenging times.

As much as I’d love to have a residential address in the town of Pleasantville (in reference to the movie), that’s not an option.

At one point or another in time, we will all experience challenges. No matter who you are, what tax bracket you’re in, your lifestyle, mindset or zip code.

You can be one of the most positive, optimistic, bubbliest people on earth. It’s inevitable to avoid. So with this fact known, how do you overcome some of your challenges? Also, what are some practical and effective steps to take?

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A good first step is to take a moment. Breathe and evaluate the situation or circumstance. Taking calm deep breaths will help you to remain calm as well as to properly evaluate your challenge with a clear mind and level head.

Another is to pray and lean on our creator for strength, guidance, and direction for whatever you may need. I’m a witness that prayer works! Lord knows we cannot lean on our own strength or understanding.

Psalm 37:23 “The steps of a man are established by the Lord, when he delights in his way.”

1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.

Read more: https://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/7-great-bible-verses-to-lean-on-for-tough-decisions/#ixzz5pWU7Olla

Here are a few more steps that I usually take:

  • Focus on the solution not the problem
  • Look back at how far the Lord has brought you. Look at how you’ve overcome challenges in the past that seemed like you would never overcome
  • Remain hopeful and positive
  • Be encouraged in the word of God and stand on his word
  • Find support in people who delight in your happiness
  • Keep a journal to get your feelings out (keeping them bottled up is unhealthy)
  • Talk with a Life coach. Say Life! is a great recommendation! 🙂
  • Think of practical step by step actions in which you can slowly but surely overcome this challenge
  • Don’t beat yourself up!
  • NO Negative talk or self sabotaging!
  • Focus on your strengths!
  • Focus on ONE step of action at a time VS. everything as a whole. This way you’ll avoid feeling overwhelmed and you’ll have quicker timeframes of success in smaller, reachable actions which will keep you moving forward.
  • Lastly, don’t give up! Keep moving forward!

These are just a few basic steps and reminders to keep you going! Please know you are not alone. Reach out as needed and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Don’t look at others who seem to have it all figured out and think some people don’t struggle with challenges. Everyone deals with their own unique set of challenges. This is in reference to social media posts as well as in daily life.

Be encouraged. Keep it moving and expect to overcome. May all your dreams come true and you come out on the other side of your challenges stronger and wiser!

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Uniquely you…

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I must say, I love people. I love all God’s creations. ALL people are beautiful. Fearfully and wonderfully made. God places a high value on our bodies as well as our hearts. We are an intricate and fleshly fine-tuning of divine wisdom, a creation “a little lower than heavenly beings,” but capable of being the crown of honor and glory.

Yes. We are precious, unique creations. We are blessed, our minds bodies and souls are blessed. Do you receive that?

In today’s world, being unique can be considered as being “weird” or at the other end of the spectrum, one can view being unique as a something of value to have, a good attribute, or a way to stand out from the crowd and be noticed more (if you are physically unique.)

However, I’m speaking on the type of uniqueness that makes you, you, Yes. We (at times) want to be accepted, fit in, or maybe simply not stand out. We all know there’s a time to pull back, hold back, be silent, speak up, be bold, etc. Ultimately, we are created to use 100% of our creation to the fullest, in a positive, beneficial, and glorifying way. With all the people in the world, you’d think that there would be more people in the world who would boldly declare their uniqueness. Now, I’m not one to judge. Lord knows that I struggled just like many of us with self esteem. However, I’ve grown to learn and love who I am. I love and except myself completely and that’s a good thing.

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I would like us to stand up and be who you were created to be. Social media, family, friends, magazines, etc. can mislead people. It can take affect on children as well as adults. Have you ever heard the phrase, “Keeping up with the Joneses?” or maybe you want to know what’s in? What are the latest trends? Is this style, hairstyle, word or phrase, played out? There are plenty of questions that come to mind. Now don’t get me wrong, to a certain extent I feel that it’s okay. I mean, we’re all in this world and if you like fashion, for example, that may be a legit question to ask. However, I feel when it comes to something that you’re really passionate about or really like and you decide to put it back simply because the item(s) or outfit may not be accepted or may not be trending…then that may be a little much.

Please feel free to where your hair the way YOU want to wear it. Dress how you want, and express yourself how YOU want. Be YOU. Now, I have to state a disclaimer. Have your ever heard someone being rude, disrespectful or vulgar? Then, immediately afterwards they state, “Well, That’s just how I am, “That’s me!” That isn’t what I’m speaking of.

We all get one life here on earth and again, there is approximately 7.7 Billion people on earth. Everyone is created as individuals. Therefore, you may see some things that you would wear, hairstyles that you wouldn’t think to try, hair colors, outfits that a little too much for you, accents that you may laugh at, ways of living, or people doing things in a way that you wouldn’t. I truly could go on and on with this. But, I take it you get the point.

So, my question is why do we feel the need to comment on things that don’t matter? Why do we tend to comment, speak on or make judgements on other peoples decisions or way of life when it has no direct impact on our lives? Thankfully, we live in a country in which we have freedom of expression. That’s a beautiful thing.

I can go deeper into this subject. But, I won’t. I just would like you to embrace your uniqueness, on all levels including your (beauty inside and out) your looks, feature, distinct characteristics, your voice, your personality, your style, your unique qualities.

There is only one of you. You are beautiful, you are special, and again, you are unique. You are needed. We don’t need another them, we need you. The world needs you to bring all that you were created to be to the forefront. What’s your style, your message, your views, your dreams, hopes, talents, abilities, what your blueprint? How will you leave your mark in this world?

Shine your light TODAY! Make a wonderfully, positive, and unique impact in life! For I am a gift and so are you! What are you waiting for?! You been dreaming long enough! You’ve written things down, secretly, hoped and dreamed. I’m sure you’ve had things you’ve wanted to try out. Places you’ve wanted to go, a move you’ve been wanting to make but didn’t (maybe in fear of this or that) Don’t hold back. Your time is NOW. Step out and go for it! Only surround yourself with people that are FOR YOU. People that encourage you, support and love you for you. Be courageous and Bold and most of all BE YOU!

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Enjoying being in the moment and exactly what it means…

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Being in the moment can be beautiful and very fulfilling. A single word for being in the moment is mindfulness.

Mindfulness, as described by the Oxford dictionary, is described as
a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

In the hustle and bustle of busy lives, wearing many hats, rushing on to our next set of duties and responsibilities, accomplishments and checking off our many, never ending to do lists, we could find ourselves on auto-pilot and not fully being in the moment. That leads to being unfulfilled in a task or it may even cause dread to begin it.

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Being mindful is essentially being in the moment and when we go about our daily routines at home or the office such as (washing dishes, laundry or eating, sending emails) it causes us to do just that–to be in that moment. When we are mindful it compliments our appreciation for life, what we have and also why we’re doing what we are doing. If we’re not in the moment, then our “accomplishing self” is task-driven, therefore we’re on autopilot to get it done. However, try connecting with your senses–for example, when we eat. We can take the time to be appreciate our food visually, indulge in the aroma, and truly be in the moment enjoying the texture, flavor and the delight of our taste buds’ satisfaction. Okay, so I guess you can tell I’m a foodie. LOL.

On a more serious note, it’s the difference between being hearing someone vs. listening. Living vs existing. Feeding yourself vs enjoying a meal. Completing a task vs. living in the satisfaction of your ability to have things to take care of that sustains you.

Being mindful can add value to the important relationships of our lives. As I stated before, listening as hearing someone is to different things. Have you ever been told that you’re not listening? Are you guilty of thinking that you know what someone is about to get to, so you began speaking or finish their sentence? What about checking out of the phone conversation when someone else randomly starts to speak to you in the background? Or, simply having your mind wonder while someone is speaking to you?

We all want to have someone to truly provide a listening ear and sense that someone is truly engaged, hearing, and listening with their mindful, undivided attention. That adds value to the relationship. It builds trust and security in the relationship. I now see things in a whole new light as far as people and interruptions. I’ve learned that interruptions are opportunities to serve others. They called you because they need you, they need a listening ear or feedback. Use opportunities to serve others and be a blessing to others. I used to think–snap back at people when they would be rude. Then I understood that they may be going through something and that it wasn’t personal. Hurting people hurt people. Through my growth, maturity, and wisdom gain. I’ve learned a lot and often times people have come to me and apologized because first of all again, I know its’s not personal, and I’m an empath and not moved by their low vibrations. I’m compassionate and focus on the bigger picture of our encounter. Being in the moment, responding vs. reacting, can make a big difference in your day-to-day mood and mindset and understanding of yourself and the people you deal with as well. Scroll down to check out more on responding vs. reacting. It’s all concerning being mindful, and trust me, it’s valuable info that you can use for self-development.

Responding vs. Reacting

www.thindifference.com/2013/03/a-mindful-difference-respond-vs-react/

Also, here’s a quick bible scripture concerning our listening and reacting…

James 1:19
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry

Here’s a quote from Friedrich Nietzsche that drives my intention home:

“To learn to see- to accustom the eye to calmness, to patience, and to allow things to come up to it; to defer judgment, and to acquire the habit of approaching and grasping an individual case from all sides. This is the first preparatory schooling of intellectuality. One must not respond immediately to a stimulus; one must acquire a command of the obstructing and isolating instincts.”

Take the time on any given day to FEEL, SENSE AND SEE all the beautiful around us. There are people that walk around in and out the homes not taking the time to observe the beauty and blessings that before us. Such as the beautiful sun that rising for us daily, the weather is something EVERYONE notices and talks about. But, take it a steps further what about the sky that’s (at times) looks as though someone painted it, or what about the nature in general, the birds, flowers that bloom. The joy in someone’s smile, the innocence and imagination or the children in the world, the kindness of a strangers opening doors, blessings you to have a nice day, people that go above and beyond to assist you.

Take it all in. It’s here for you to encounter. Be still, quiet the mind and just be. -Katrina Marie

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The great time to practice and learn to be mindful is while you are walking, driving, running, cycling–things of nature that put you in the best state to calm the mind. Engage and take in your surroundings. It also gives way for your intuition development–having you tune in and be receptive, as well as for room for your creativity to flow. Take time out for you and all that you’re blessed with moment by moment, minor or major. It’s hard to be mindful when you’re mind is FULL. Best wishes on your Journey to your best self!

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I’m leaving you with a link to 10 Mindful exercises for you to try out so that you can enjoy your moments..

https://blog.mindvalley.com/stay-present/

Lastly, here’s a spiritual breakdown of the definition of mindfulness:

http://Mindfulness is the psychological process of bringing one’s attention to experiences occurring in the present moment, which one can develop through the practice of meditation and through other training. Mindfulness is derived from sati, a significant element of Buddhist traditions, and based on Zen, Vipassanā, and Tibetan meditation techniques. Individuals who have contributed to the popularity of mindfulness in the modern Western context include Thích Nhất Hạnh, Herbert Benson, Jon Kabat-Zinn, and Richard J. Davidson.

Peace of mind, Joy and fulfillment to you on your precious life journey!

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Staying free from distractions

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Distractions are everywhere and sometimes staying focused is easier said than done. How do we stay free from distractions in a world filled with them?

We like to think that we have everything under control. That’s not always the case. As hard as we may try, distractions can be relentless–eating away at our time and quality of time with people we value.


We’re all familiar with Merriam-Webster’s main definition of the word distraction. It’s described as: a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else. This could be a variety of things including…

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Social Media

This is surely one of the biggest distractions there is. Social Media can be very useful–a great resource and asset. However, if you’re not focused, it can pull you away from what you were there to do in the first place. We’ve all been there. We hop online and somewhere down the line we notice a post, something interesting or something we’ve been contemplating or wanting to look into. We click on it. Get engaged. One engagement leads to another. Next thing we know 10 mins has breezed by!

Silencing those pesky alerts and notification can help. Remembering our primary focus. Being our own boss. Our own accountability partner. Maybe give ourselves a reasonable time frame to be online can help. Remembering our goals and desired outcome can push us through. Lastly, experiencing success gives us an adrenaline rush, filling us with happiness, joy, and drive to create more success. We need to feed our focus and starve distractions.



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Smartphones

Smart phones are sort of in the same category as social media, simply because we have access to social media alerts on our phones. Which, leads me to speaking on disabling those pesky alerts, beeping, buzzing, ring tones and notifications.

This is a tricky area because we have so much in the palm of our hands with the possession of our phones–phone calls, text, blog alerts, emails, calendars, reminders, social media, banking, music, productivity apps and more.

There comes a time when we simply have to put the phone down, silence the phone, and let people know when we’re available and when we’re not.

There is an option we have to go into your settings and personalize each app. We’re able to disable permissions that allow your phone to send you each and every irrelevant notification. Or, try using the silent feature, yet keep the phone flipped over and close in view just in case your expecting a call or message from someone. With that said, you can set it to vibrate (if that doesn’t bother you) and keep it close by so you can hear it.

We can take full advantage of all of the options we have as far a settings and alerts. It sure could be helpful. However, we are captain of our own ships. In control of our own actions and reactions. We all know where our strengths and weaknesses are when it comes to being focus or not.

I think it’s best to reevaluate in the moment of being distracted while it’s still fresh. What distracted you? How? Why? What could you do to avoid it? If it’s a thought that came to mind or something that you ran across on your phone, write it down to explore later.

At the end of the day, the question is did we give it our all? Did we overcome our obstacles? Did we gain what we strived for? If not, don’t beat yourself up. Reevaluate and move forward. Learn from your setbacks.

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People

Here’s a few scriptures speaking on the company we keep…

Corinthians 15:33
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

Proverbs 13:20
Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm

People. Yes, People can be a distractions. After walking away from some people. I call them “Energy vampires” as I’ve learned. When you walk away from them, you feel drained. You may have been in good spirits. Then afterwards you were feeling “down”, upset, frustrated, discouraged, drained and just not in the mood, mindset or motivation and confidence that you had before they entered your space. BEWARE of people like that. They can sense and see your POSITIVE, BUBBLY, OPTIMISTIC ENERGY FROM AFAR and they want it. They may be wondering (and I’ve heard people say this, and maybe you have to,) why are you so happy. Have you ever noticed when they asked that their facial expression wasn’t one of being happy for you or one of happy intrigue? It’s a face of confusing and extreme curiosity. You may not get the, “I’m happy for you,” that you were expecting. Not that you may need it, but it’s good to have support and other times encouragement.

Every noticed when you approach someone or vice versa, you’re in a good mood and they clearly aren’t at their best? Or, maybe that’s “just them”? Perhaps they’ve been that way. Maybe they’re a Debbie downer or negative Nancy, a complainer, or one that plays the victim. People like that (energy vampires) have the potential to suck your energy from you because they are in low vibrating energies and mindset. They will drain you by the quality or direction of conversation. You will notice when you leave (as stated before) you won’t be in the same mood or mindset in which you came. However, they may be uplifted. Sometimes you will find them laughing, smiling, and tickled by pushing your buttons and simply draining and using your energy. I’m leaving you with a few links to check out so that you can be aware of low vibrating energies and how to recognized them and deal with them.

This link is concerning 8 Symptoms of a Low Vibration to Look Out For (whether it’s you or someone else)

This link is concerning 8 Symptoms of a Low Vibration to Look Out For (whether it’s you or someone else)

https://raiseyourvibrationtoday.com/2015/03/10/symptoms-of-a-low-vibration/

This one is 6 Ways to Shield Yourself From Low Vibration Energies Without Avoiding Anyonehttps://www.lifecoachcode.com/2017/11/17/shield-yourself-from-low-vibration-energies-without-avoiding/

Lastly, the second definition of the word distraction according to
Merriam-Webster’s dictionary is: extreme agitation of the mind or emotions. With that said, Please, protect your mindset, guard your thoughts for they can be distractions also. Negative, self sabotaging thoughts can take us out of the will of God for us. They can take us away from our true potential, goals, values, perceptions and directions and beliefs. Their ego will constantly try to win and get your attention. Find ways to keep your thoughts positive, focused, and encouraging. Whether it be the scriptures, affirmations, surrounding yourself with any and all things positive, supportive people, songs, television content, videos, songs, TED Talks, quotes, uplifting beliefs, or meditation, keep yourself lifted!

I hope you found this helpful and for those who relate to the point of the content, thank you!

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Katrina Marie’s Reflections: Things to consider when going about your day…

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Gratitude

Having an attitude of gratitude is essential to having a happy life. Being thankful or grateful comes from the heart and therefore exudes positive energies of appreciation. When we’re appreciative we exude a happy, caring, joyful disposition. You will find yourself attracting people of the same demeanor.

Perception

Because there are so many layers and facets to life, it may be overwhelming at times. For example, highs and lows. Some may say a particular outcome, situation, or reaction is good or bad, positive or negative. Another may say that the same situation wasn’t a bad thing and that it was simply a learning experience.

Our perceptions create our realities.

Staying grounded and focused on priorities, keeping an open mind, maintaining open communication, and getting feedback from people who care for you and have your best interest at heart could help. Often times we may be distant or in a disagreement with someone and after taking the time to sit down with them, be open and honest with them. We may find that both or maybe one of the person’s perceptions were off. Sometimes what we think isn’t always the case.

Creating your space

I believe that our homes should be our personal oasis–that it should exude peace and tranquility, joy, and comfort. I believe that your personal space (whether it be the whole home, your office, personal space, or man cave) should represent who you are. Why not make it reflect the colors of your personality, by using different textures, pictures, posters, inspirational quotes, values, or motivations. Don’t be afraid to get creative, edgy, fun, or playful with your space. If you’re more of a straight-edged person, you may prefer clean lines, fewer colors (black, whites, greys), which a classy look, yet effective. The bottom line of creating your space (depending on what it’s being used for) is to make it all about you! On the other hand, if you’re in a relationship, married, or have roommates, of course, you can work it out where each of you can add your personal touch. If your fortunate to have space to yourself, GO FOR IT!! There’s so much going on outside of your home. As I mentioned before, our home should be our oasis. When I think of my home or my personal space, I think of the peace of mind that it’s gives. I think of a relaxing, fun, happy, and loving environment. It should be safe and where creativity flows. We’re at our best when we’re happy, calm and content. We’re in our zone when we’re confident and free to be us. Ideas come to life! That’s where the magic happens!

Shine your light! Say yes! Be grateful!

Shine your inner light! Positive energy is contagious! Delight in things that bring you joy. You are unique and specially made, for no one can take your place. Be the best version of yourself without any regrets. Work smart. Don’t burn yourself out. Take time for self. Got an obstacle? You were born to win; take the time and seek resources to help you figure it out! Unwind and relax! Kickback. Meditate. Take a breather. Be a believer. An Achiever. Say YES to your best life! A stress-free life! Say YES to your dreams (they can hear you!) Express yourself. Speak your truth! Speak it with love, whatever you do. Uplift someone, It matters. Be grateful. Quick to listen, Slow to speak, slow to get angry. Start fresh tomorrow. Love and encourage yourself just as much as you would a good friend. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Sleep well. Dream big! Love big! Laugh hard. Delight is the beautifulness of life that people may take for granted. What brings you joy? Do that more! Guide your dreams around all your roadblocks and soar!!!

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The Importance of healthy relationships…

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In our lifetime, by choice, we build all kinds of relationships. On the other hand, our relationship role of being born into a family is chosen for us. Of course, That may be the role of a sister or a brother. A niece or a nephew. With that said, we have lots of relationships by choice or not that we’re surrounded by these relationships can play a major part of who we are or not. Whether we want them to or not. They can affect us subconsciously.

In an ideal world, it would be nice to be surrounded by people who love and support us 24/7. Having those people express that through their actions, not just their words. It would be nice to have people to root for us, believe in us, encourage us, and motivate us if need be. “Oh yes!” Having someone to build us up versus tearing you down feels good.

All of the above are priceless and at times and for some, (relative or not) are simply hard to come by.

So if you have a supportive circle, person, or persons, hold on to them. Give back in any way you can. Don’t take them for granted and let them know verbally that you appreciate them. Often times we think many things of people, but rarely take the time to express an attitude of gratitude. About which, we’ll discuss at a later time.

If you don’t happen to have a great support system, first and foremost (let me tell ya!) our heavenly Father is just a prayer away!!

Jeremiah 29:12-13; “Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

Whether you’re a believer or not, he’s there and is NOT distant at all! All you need is the faith of a mustard seed! (and that’s tiny, yet effective!!!)


And it is impossible to please God without faith. Anyone who wants to come to him must believe that God exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him. Hebrews 11:6 NLT

He’s the best support system you will ever have. Because truth be told, some of the closest people we have in our lives aren’t going to be so supportive. Whether it is truly listening vs. simply hearing you, telling you they believe in you, that it’s okay, giving you words of wisdom, hugs (if needed), a shoulder to cry on, or simply a trusting relationship someone you can confide in.

I know lots of people including myself to whom I’d love to run and share some good or exciting news. But I have to think twice before doing so. You may not get their full attention. Do they make time for you? Do they secretly wish for your downfall? Are they dependable? Do they make you feel like they have your best interest in mind? These are all good questions and sadly, we don’t always have a supportive group. We may have to trim the fat. Discard the toxic relationships. Reassess our circle. Recreate a circle. Take some time alone to regroup.

As, my Grandma used to say, “Can’t nobody do you like the Lord.” Okay, I didn’t write this with the intention of preaching, LOL. However, it is my intention to express my truths, to get you the “Good news”, and to keep it real and simply talk to you because I truly care for each and every person that comes across this article and I sincerely wish you the best!

Getting back to the second of all. Concerning those of us who may not have such a positive circle. Don’t worry! There are plenty of options for you! (Aside for praying for guidance and direction, first.) You can always (with technology nowadays) join a support group or a group in general. One of my favorites is Meetup. You can go to http://www.meetup.com or simply download the app. It’s a great way to connect and meet up with groups of individuals that have the same interest. You have to check it out! If you’re an entrepreneur seeking to link with other like-minded entrepreneurs to network, etc. this is the place! Perhaps, your an introvert. Yep, they have Meetups for that too! Maybe you’re a single parent, Maybe you like to travel, seeking to meet new people, have always wanted to join a book club, enjoy spirituality, Law of attraction, sports or more! The options are endless!

Now, I have to clear this up. This app is NOT a dating app (AT ALL!) and they will tell you that within some of the groups. With that being said, they do have groups that people create that are for singles that just want to hang out or venture out. You can even create your own group! So basically, let’s say I create a group. I note my intentions and description for the group and set an event and date. There may be 400 people in the group and whoever is interested RSVP within the app that they are coming out. You can safely chat within the app and meet new, people. This is a great option, however, it’s just one option. Groups and an organization that you’re a part of can be a good resource. So is finding a mentor. Find people who are doing what you are striving to do.

Speak your truth, keep believing in you even when no one else may not. Keep pushing. Exude positive energy. Like attracts like and positive people of the same mindset will soon enter your life. Keeping an open mind is always helpful because your blessings make be in disguise. Things don’t always happen the way we may think. So, keep on being your beautiful self, striving towards the dreams, goals and lovely aspirations and I’ll be keeping you in my prayers because you matter and you are valued! Keep that circle tight! Our time and energy is precious so be careful of whom you give it to.

New results require a new mindset…

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Everything starts with a thought…


Striving towards new desires such as new dreams, goals, lifestyles, the beautiful journey of self discovery, or maybe a shifting career paths, etc. is so exciting!!! We get pumped up, hopeful, (as we should) adrenaline starts to flow which leads to creative ideas and inspirations…Then somewhere down the line the excitement fizzles…Why is that? What causes us to get worked up about something we truly desire–only to have it sit on the back burner marinating?

One of the culprits it’s our mindset. Our core, limiting beliefs. Toxic, doubts, fears or worries. Fear of failure, fear of success (yes, that’s a thing) or maybe procrastination sets in…All these things can keep us lacking what we ultimately desire in life.

The big shift that moves causes us to want more, to want something different, better or simply more in alignment with WHO we truly are may come through experiences that forces us to grow and develop. It may come through an unfulfilling or unpleasant experience in which we discover what we truly desire, shifting us in a whole new direction in life. This is a good thing. We are meant to evolve–to better ourselves so that we can help others and live our true purpose.

I believe we shouldn’t and don’t have to live a box. We can reinvent ourselves at any time. Just because you’ve been known as a (fill in the blank) all your life, that doesn’t mean you have to stay in that role or mindset! Let’s chat!

Truth be told, “Life is a precious gift!” Life is something to be cherished and your mindset, the vibe that you give off, focus, intentions, and belief play a MAJOR role in it. You have a purpose, you are unique to your personality, your skills, talents, and abilities. There is only one of you and you are wonderfully and carefully made. -Psalm 139:14 There’s only one of you and you are valuable. What you do and say affects others. You are need and bettering yourself is a reward within itself! This is YOUR time! This is YOUR moment! I would like to ask you as one child of God to the next…

  • Are you happy?
  • Are you fulfilled?
  • What purpose your soul calling you towards?
  • What are your deepest desires, hopes and dreams?
  • What have you always wanted to experience?
  • What do you want to overcome, conquer, accomplish?
  • Where do you want to Visit or travel to?
  • What are some of your limiting beliefs?
  • Are you feeding your spirit?
  • How is your thought life?
  • Is your mind constantly wondering?
  • Are your thoughts more positive or negative?

These are somethings to ponder on. Our mind is constantly on the go. It’s up to us to assess our thought life and gain control. If you’re a believer in the word, boldly submit your negative thoughts to the word of God. To add to that, you may want to get a scripture or affirmation that pertains to your current situation and keep it with you (mentally or written down) throughout your day. It’s also a good thing to have or create a morning ritual or routine. Setting your intentions, being grateful (stating it out loud or writing it down vs. thinking it helps a lot! Keeping a gratitude, journal, or journaling in general is therapeutic. Morning inspiration in any form (music, motivational podcast, video, Ted Talks) are all beneficial and getting out in Nature is good for grounding our minds and energy. Lastly, as I mentioned before Taking that “me time” is “oh” such a good one.

Best wishes to you in your journey of personal development, growth, transformation and career change. I hope you’ve found this info useful. I’m leaving you with links to affirmations and a few scriptures concerning mindset. Peace (of mind), love and light to you! God Bless.

Affirmations link for mindset ( Brief, general info on affirmations) **Affirmations located mid page https://theblissfulmind.com/2018/10/07/positive-affirmations-list/

Affirmation link for success
https://www.theemotionmachine.com/75-affirmations-for-personal-development/

Scriptures concerning mindset and our Thought life…

Philippians 4:8
 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

2 Timothy 1:7
For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.

Proverbs 23:7
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he

Isaiah 54:17
No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
And every tongue which rises against you in judgment
You shall condemn.
This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,
And their righteousness is from Me,”
Says the Lord.

Joshua 1:9
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.

Romans 12:2
 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.